Peace of mind doesn't come from STUFF, it comes from your thoughts.
If you've been desperate for peace of mind lately, maybe you’ve been looking in all the wrong places.
Are you looking to people?
Numbing out with food?
Trying to find satisfaction while shopping?
Looking for work to fulfill you?
Think money will solve all your problems?
Do these things bring pockets of happiness? Yes, absolutely! But they can disappear in a shutter of a moment, and then what?
That’s why I want to stress this point - peace, happiness, and fulfillment is an internal experience. The things around you only intensify what’s already within you.
Okay so how do we achieve this internal peace?
Lots of ways! But here are 3 to get you started, my friend.
Manage your mind
Spend time reflecting on your life
Focus on the good
MANAGE YOUR MIND
Managing your mindset happens in many ways. Our mind is constantly running and jumping around from thought to thought. It’s exhausting when you think about it. But meditation helps give our active brain a much needed break. There’s nothing fancy about it, you can just sit still, with no music on, your phone on the other side of the room, and take a few deep breaths.
Another way to manage your mindset, be mindful about what you’re consuming. I don't mean food - although that plays a part (but that’s for another day).
I mean what are you listening to, what are you watching, what conversations are you engaging in. Your environment heavily impacts your mindset. If you’re constantly around negative people who tear you down, if you watch reality tv shows filled with bickering and drama, or you watch the dreadful doom and gloom news then you can bet your mind is soaking up all of that toxicity.
It might be time to make some changes to support your growth and peace of mind.
No, I take that back... it’s a MOST DEFINITELY time to make changes. Otherwise, your life will remain the same.
Why is reflection so important? Because we’re hard wired to keep going, push forward, go go go! When really there’s power in learning from the past, soaking up the present, and visualizing a better future.
Reflection is like stretching… it alleviates tension in your mind. It helps you create mental space. Sometimes we don’t realize how much of our mind is cluttered with thoughts that don’t need to be there.
Dwelling on the past and ruminating on things that have already happened is a waste of time and energy. When you reflect you can see it for what it is and release it. Worrying or feeling anxious about something in the future is also unproductive, although visualizing the best case scenario for future events or goals is helpful.
During your reflection time you can adjust that anxiety to a more fruitful experience of thinking about the future.
When you reflect on a regular basis, you’re able to organize your thoughts in a healthy way that will support your growth and peace of mind.
SHIFT YOUR FOCUS
I don't know why we’re wired this way, but we will create our own misery by creating a negative narrative of our lives. One set back in the day can make us feel like our entire life is miserable. But the more you focus on the good, the more you’ll balance out this default way of thinking.
You must be intentional about shifting your focus from ruminating on the bad to ruminating on the good, but the more you do it the more it will become a natural habit. Your mind is like a muscle, the more you exercise certain shifts the stronger it will become.
People ask me all the time, are you always so positive? I’m not positive 100% of the time, but I’ve learned to notice negativity and then gently release it because i know that being negative brings NO GOOD. I also make a conscious effort to focus on the good every single day.
It’s not hard. It’s not rocket science. If you can focus on the bad, you can focus on the good. It’s just a shift in your thinking. It goes back to managing your mind.
And I’m here to tell you, the more you focus on the good, the more good you’ll notice in your life. It’s not some fluffy wishful thinking, it’s a fact.
Don’t believe me? Try it yourself.
Each time you notice your mind stuck in the muck, shift to a positive thought. Something you’re grateful for. Something someone did for you recently. A good moment from the day. An overlooked blessing that you take for granted - like food, water, your health.
Everything around you can change in a moment, but the peace of mind you cultivate from within is priceless. If you’re looking for more peace, start looking inward.
Trust me, your life can be utter chaos all around you, but when you hold your wellbeing and sanity sacred, nothing can disrupt your inner calm.
Make peace of mind a priority.